The Mom Who's Been There

 

  The Radical Act of Resting in a Busy World Pull up a chair, leave the laundry in the dryer for another hour, and let’s chat. Is your coffee hot? I hope so. I was sitting with my coffee this morning, staring at a patch of weeds in the garden that desperately needs pulling. My brain immediately started its the beginning of the weekend "Hustle Chant": You should be weeding. You should be folding. You should be prepping for next week. But then I realized something. My worth is not tied to how many errands I run on the weekend. The Gift of the Sabbath For me, Saturday is more than just a day off. It is the Sabbath. It is a day specifically set apart for rest, reflection, and reconnection. Observing the Sabbath is my way of intentionally pushing back against the "busy-ness" of the world.  It is a built-in reminder that the work can wait and that my spirit needs nourishment just as much as my body needs sleep. We live in a world that treats "busy" like a ba...

Welcome to Our Weekly Newsletter If you have ever felt like you are running a marathon with no finish line, you are in the right place. For a long time, I tried to do it all. I tried to be the perfect parent, the perfect partner, and the perfect professional, all while keeping a smile on my face and a clean house in the background. But the truth is that the "invisible load" we carry is heavy. It is exhausting to be the one who remembers every doctor’s appointment, every spirit day at school, and every empty milk carton, all while trying to remember who we were before our names changed to "Mom." I am starting The Weekly Newsletter because I believe we need a digital village that doesn’t require us to be perfect to enter. This isn't just a collection of tips; it is a weekly reminder that you are allowed to put your own mask on first. What this space looks like: In every edition, we are going to get honest. I will be answering your  anonymous questions from this ...

Mind Traps:  The Hidden Enemy of the "Good Enough" Mom It’s 11:00 PM. The house is finally quiet, but your brain is louder than a toddler in a toy aisle. You are replaying every mistake, every "failed" interaction, and every "what if" scenario. If this is you: welcome to the club. As "the mom who’s been there," I can tell you that motherhood is a breeding ground for Mind Traps. In the world of psychology, these are called cognitive distortions. They are sneaky, repetitive thought patterns that convince us of things that simply aren't true. They make us feel like we are failing even when we are doing an incredible job. Let’s shine a light on these traps so we can start breaking out of them. 1. All-or-Nothing Thinking The Perfectionist Trap This is that sneaky voice telling you that if things aren’t 100% perfect, they’re a total disaster. It’s like we forget the middle ground even exists. If the day didn’t go exactly as planned or you had one ...

To the Mom Whose Child Doesn’t "Fit the Box" We’ve all seen the "box." It’s the one built by society, by well-meaning parenting books, and sometimes even by our own expectations before we actually became parents. It’s the box where kids sit still, hit every milestone on the exact day the app says they should, and thrive in a standard classroom setting without a second thought. But what happens when your child doesn’t fit? Maybe they are "too loud" for the quiet spaces. Maybe their brain processes the world in a way that makes a standard 2nd-grade worksheet look like a foreign language. Maybe they have "big feelings" that explode in the middle of the grocery store, or maybe they are the quiet observers who find the world a little too bright and a little too fast. The Exhaustion of "Trying to Fit" If you are the mom trying to fold, tuck, and squeeze your child into that standard box, I know how exhausted you are. I’ve been there. Yo...